"madaling maghanap ng wala... mahirap maghanap ng meron.."
"magandang marealize din natin kung gaano nga ba tayo ka blessed, dahil may mga mas maliit na tao pa na humihiling na sana nandyan sila sa pwesto mo ngayon.."
--nakakamove na statements galing sa bertdei celebrant... kagabi. haaay, pang EIC talaga ng "buttress" hehehe. well, nasabi ko nalnag sa sarili koi, oo nga noh.. may nalaki siyang punto dun..tama. one thing more, isa siyang perfect example of a person ng taong na strive mag move on... tama ulit un (it reminded me of my self kung gaano kasi ako katangang umasa sa wala... dibale.. bitter to better. =)
more for kuya James!
cheers!
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
t s i n e l a s
napaisip ako isang arw nung naikwento sa akin yung tungkol sa isang estudyante na tinanong kung papapiliin siya ng isang bagay para ihalintulad yung sarili niya..
"tsinelas.."
ano nga naman yun sa nga bagay diba na hindi mo nga namn talaga maiisip..
pero napaisip ako dun sabay tanong "bakit daw?"
-- dahil nabubuhay siya ng may kapareha --
oo nga noh. tama naman siya, hindi sa lahat ng oras at panahon kailangan ka lang matutuo sa sarili mo.. kadalasan natutuo ka sa mga pinagdadaanan mo.. kasama ang mga tao sa paligid mo.. hindi ka din magiging ganyan ngayon kundi ka tinuruan, minahal at sinaktan ng mga tao... pati ang pagiging matatag dahil sa kanila din... para ngang halos ata lahat na ng bagay sa mundo eh... siguro isa sa napakahalang dapat ipaalala sa nito yung "sa kahit anong gawin mo, kahit san ka man mapunta.. masasabi mo parin sa sarili mo na...
hindi ka parin nag iisa"
to love or to be loved?
To love or be loved
By Cherie Ann Lo
Inquirer
Last updated 00:22am (Mla time) 09/25/2007
OUR TEACHER in philosophy once asked our class whether it is harder to love or to be loved. I did not have a clue on how to answer the question, but I took it to heart. After a few bottles of cheap wine and nights spent until dawn, the question gained contour. But instead of finding an answer, the first thing that came to my mind was another question: What is to love?
I am not entirely sure if what I have arrived at is true, given the limited experiences I have. The only thing I am sure of is that love entails some letting go. It is allowing the other to grow, to pursue his happiness even if that pursuit does not include my own. Love keeps one happy with the thought that the one you let go will be happy, even if it means being without him. As Marcel would put it, "To love anybody is to expect something from him, something which can neither be defined nor foreseen; it is at the same time in some way to make it possible for him to fulfill this expectation." In setting him free, the only expectation I can hold now is that he will be happy. But it is by letting go that I can give him the possibility of being happy.
Even without this other person, loving transforms life into living. Love puts action into life. Life is not life when lived in passivity. Life becomes dynamic when one loves. Love colors the boredom that the routine of life brings. Breathing is no longer just for the purpose of keeping the self alive, it becomes living for the loved one.
Is loving the same as having? It is not. If I claim ownership of someone, he will not be the same person I loved when he was not my possession. Owning something is the same as personalizing it. If an object is personalized, it loses its character. It becomes a reflection of the self. When this happens, then what I love is myself, not the other.
Having someone makes it so much harder to let him go. But if one just loves with respect for the other person, then letting go becomes less difficult. It will never be easy, because there will always be a desire to have that person. Maybe it's human nature to be greedy and to want what one loves. But in the course of having, love disappears.
So loving someone is hard. It seems to be having but it is not. It is a conscious action so that it is not allowed to turn into ownership. It is a giving in to one's very nature, to one's desire to want the best for the loved one. But at the same time, it also entails some control over one's natural impulse to own.
But what is it to be loved? I believe that being loved entails utmost patience. Being loved is an act based on the other person. It is hard in the sense that one cannot control how the other loves. It is like having a stranger hold one's hand. There is fear that this person will lead one to an unknown place. There is apprehension that it will into a grasp. What if he does not let go? The only thing that can loosen this grasp is time.
Patiently waiting for time to knock some sense into the other or the self is probably one of life's hardest tasks. Time stretches into infinity when one is holding on to someone even if it is not reciprocated. There is again this notion that one can have this person but the truth is, one can never have him or anyone else for that matter.
Is it not hard to know that a person does not love you the way you want him to? It is one of life's greatest tensions: the incongruence between how one is being loved and how one loves. To be loved is also hard because it involves acknowledging the possibility that one can never control how the other person loves. It involves an uncertainty which can condense into fear.
So which is harder between loving and being loved? I still haven't come to a conclusion. The intensity by which love impacts a person can make everything both easy and hard. To love someone makes it easier to live, but at the same time, life can be harder because that someone can never be owned. To be loved entails patience which forms character. But it also involves a fear, an uncertainty.
The more important question is, will love ever be easy? I want to believe it is, but life proves otherwise.
Cherie Ann Lo, 20, is a BS Psychology senior at the Ateneo de Manila University.
Copyright 2007 Inquirer. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.
--right. it will never be a very good question to answer with easy or not.. I think it both requires giving of oneself.. to open the possibilities and risks to be happy or not... at the end of the day it's how huch they appreciate and how much YOU TRULY loved that matters... =)
By Cherie Ann Lo
Inquirer
Last updated 00:22am (Mla time) 09/25/2007
OUR TEACHER in philosophy once asked our class whether it is harder to love or to be loved. I did not have a clue on how to answer the question, but I took it to heart. After a few bottles of cheap wine and nights spent until dawn, the question gained contour. But instead of finding an answer, the first thing that came to my mind was another question: What is to love?
I am not entirely sure if what I have arrived at is true, given the limited experiences I have. The only thing I am sure of is that love entails some letting go. It is allowing the other to grow, to pursue his happiness even if that pursuit does not include my own. Love keeps one happy with the thought that the one you let go will be happy, even if it means being without him. As Marcel would put it, "To love anybody is to expect something from him, something which can neither be defined nor foreseen; it is at the same time in some way to make it possible for him to fulfill this expectation." In setting him free, the only expectation I can hold now is that he will be happy. But it is by letting go that I can give him the possibility of being happy.
Even without this other person, loving transforms life into living. Love puts action into life. Life is not life when lived in passivity. Life becomes dynamic when one loves. Love colors the boredom that the routine of life brings. Breathing is no longer just for the purpose of keeping the self alive, it becomes living for the loved one.
Is loving the same as having? It is not. If I claim ownership of someone, he will not be the same person I loved when he was not my possession. Owning something is the same as personalizing it. If an object is personalized, it loses its character. It becomes a reflection of the self. When this happens, then what I love is myself, not the other.
Having someone makes it so much harder to let him go. But if one just loves with respect for the other person, then letting go becomes less difficult. It will never be easy, because there will always be a desire to have that person. Maybe it's human nature to be greedy and to want what one loves. But in the course of having, love disappears.
So loving someone is hard. It seems to be having but it is not. It is a conscious action so that it is not allowed to turn into ownership. It is a giving in to one's very nature, to one's desire to want the best for the loved one. But at the same time, it also entails some control over one's natural impulse to own.
But what is it to be loved? I believe that being loved entails utmost patience. Being loved is an act based on the other person. It is hard in the sense that one cannot control how the other loves. It is like having a stranger hold one's hand. There is fear that this person will lead one to an unknown place. There is apprehension that it will into a grasp. What if he does not let go? The only thing that can loosen this grasp is time.
Patiently waiting for time to knock some sense into the other or the self is probably one of life's hardest tasks. Time stretches into infinity when one is holding on to someone even if it is not reciprocated. There is again this notion that one can have this person but the truth is, one can never have him or anyone else for that matter.
Is it not hard to know that a person does not love you the way you want him to? It is one of life's greatest tensions: the incongruence between how one is being loved and how one loves. To be loved is also hard because it involves acknowledging the possibility that one can never control how the other person loves. It involves an uncertainty which can condense into fear.
So which is harder between loving and being loved? I still haven't come to a conclusion. The intensity by which love impacts a person can make everything both easy and hard. To love someone makes it easier to live, but at the same time, life can be harder because that someone can never be owned. To be loved entails patience which forms character. But it also involves a fear, an uncertainty.
The more important question is, will love ever be easy? I want to believe it is, but life proves otherwise.
Cherie Ann Lo, 20, is a BS Psychology senior at the Ateneo de Manila University.
Copyright 2007 Inquirer. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.
--right. it will never be a very good question to answer with easy or not.. I think it both requires giving of oneself.. to open the possibilities and risks to be happy or not... at the end of the day it's how huch they appreciate and how much YOU TRULY loved that matters... =)
Thursday, August 06, 2009
kalokohan =)
-- bibe.
sino nga ba 'to? hahaha. isang malaking kalokohan kami. . kalokohan lang kung paano talaga nagsimula lahat, alam mo yun, ni hindi ko man lang inisip na darating sa puntong kami ngaun. At hindi ko din kasi inasahan na may darating na katulad niya sa buhay ko... yung tipong papangitiin ang puso mo lagi, weeeh, ang chezzy. pero syempre tulad ng lahat ng relasyon, nag aaway din kami, lagi? at siya ang nasasaktan (phisically, hehe.. ang sakit ko kasing manampal eh..). Siguro at the end of the day, itong kalokohan nato yung isa sa pinaka seryoso kong naging desisyon ngaung taon... simple lang, dahil naging malaki na siyang parte ng maliit kong buhay. Marami akong natutunan, at higit sa lahat marami akong pangarap na nabubuo. Syempre dahil sa KAnYa.
Kalahating taon, kumusta ba ako?
Masaya. oo, eto, hindi ako kailangan tumawa para malaman mong masaya ako, siguro malamang kilala mo ako... panatag lang yung loob ko na isang araw lahat nga mga pangarap ko natutupad din kasama ang mga taong malapit sa puso ko. Marami pa man akong tatahakin at kakaining bigas, kakayanin ko 'to dahil sa kanila at para sa kanila.
---wala lang. ano pa nga ba ang pwede kong sabihin sa kalokohang 'to.
magulo.
masaya.
makulit.
maingay?
mapagbigay.
mainit.
malamig!
mapagmahal.
at higit sa lahat MASAYA! Smile
ano nga ba?
paano?
bakit?
ewan ko din...
hindi mo pa ba nasubukan tanungin sarili mo?
kung hindi pa, di subukan mo ngayon..
kung natanong mo na, siguro hindi mo parin alam ang sagot...
ano nga bang dapat itanong?
"bakit nga ba niya ako mahal?"
---kailangan nga ba talagang itanong yon?
ewan ko nga din eh... pero diba "hindi ka naman bibigyan ni boss ng isang bagay na hindi ka karapatdapat, oh kung hindi man, siguro bingigay niya yon sa'yo para maging karapat dapat ka..."
ang lalim ata nun. (hihihi)pero totoo.
---"i think everything could work in a growing process.."
dba? you're helping each other to face life's reality...you're helping each other to be a better HIM because he also taught you to be one.
---ang simple, ang lalim, pero ang gandah...
kalokohan man pero ito yun eh...hmmm. alam mo yun.
at, at the end of the day magiging masaya parin ako dahil parte ka ng buhay KO. at I'M BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN MY LIFE Smile
sino nga ba 'to? hahaha. isang malaking kalokohan kami. . kalokohan lang kung paano talaga nagsimula lahat, alam mo yun, ni hindi ko man lang inisip na darating sa puntong kami ngaun. At hindi ko din kasi inasahan na may darating na katulad niya sa buhay ko... yung tipong papangitiin ang puso mo lagi, weeeh, ang chezzy. pero syempre tulad ng lahat ng relasyon, nag aaway din kami, lagi? at siya ang nasasaktan (phisically, hehe.. ang sakit ko kasing manampal eh..). Siguro at the end of the day, itong kalokohan nato yung isa sa pinaka seryoso kong naging desisyon ngaung taon... simple lang, dahil naging malaki na siyang parte ng maliit kong buhay. Marami akong natutunan, at higit sa lahat marami akong pangarap na nabubuo. Syempre dahil sa KAnYa.
Kalahating taon, kumusta ba ako?
Masaya. oo, eto, hindi ako kailangan tumawa para malaman mong masaya ako, siguro malamang kilala mo ako... panatag lang yung loob ko na isang araw lahat nga mga pangarap ko natutupad din kasama ang mga taong malapit sa puso ko. Marami pa man akong tatahakin at kakaining bigas, kakayanin ko 'to dahil sa kanila at para sa kanila.
---wala lang. ano pa nga ba ang pwede kong sabihin sa kalokohang 'to.
magulo.
masaya.
makulit.
maingay?
mapagbigay.
mainit.
malamig!
mapagmahal.
at higit sa lahat MASAYA! Smile
ano nga ba?
paano?
bakit?
ewan ko din...
hindi mo pa ba nasubukan tanungin sarili mo?
kung hindi pa, di subukan mo ngayon..
kung natanong mo na, siguro hindi mo parin alam ang sagot...
ano nga bang dapat itanong?
"bakit nga ba niya ako mahal?"
---kailangan nga ba talagang itanong yon?
ewan ko nga din eh... pero diba "hindi ka naman bibigyan ni boss ng isang bagay na hindi ka karapatdapat, oh kung hindi man, siguro bingigay niya yon sa'yo para maging karapat dapat ka..."
ang lalim ata nun. (hihihi)pero totoo.
---"i think everything could work in a growing process.."
dba? you're helping each other to face life's reality...you're helping each other to be a better HIM because he also taught you to be one.
---ang simple, ang lalim, pero ang gandah...
kalokohan man pero ito yun eh...hmmm. alam mo yun.
at, at the end of the day magiging masaya parin ako dahil parte ka ng buhay KO. at I'M BLESSED TO HAVE YOU IN MY LIFE Smile
Tuesday, August 04, 2009
50 ideas i want to write about
50 Writing Ideas I Couldn’t Find on Another List
by Frank Gilroy
in personal
1. Send out a twitter asking for a random word to write a post about.
2. Google your name, find somebody that isn’t you, and write about them.
3. Find two experts in a field and start an argument between them.
4. Write a letter of resignation for a job you don’t have.
5. Write a resume cover letter for a job you have no chance of getting.
6. Re-write a great speech from history like the Gettysburg Address.
7. Write a letter to yourself in the future.
8. Write a letter to yourself in the past.
9. Write a letter to a son or daughter you don’t have.
10. Write a letter to an extra terrestrial.
11. Write a review of a book that hasn’t been written.
12. Write a review of a movie that hasn’t been made.
13. Write a review of a product that hasn’t been developed.
14. Write a travel review of a place you haven’t visited.
15. Write yourself a spam e-mail.
16. Write yourself a sales letter for a product you’d never buy.
17. Write a lawyers closing arguments.
18. Write a judges dissent.
19. Write a new book or chapter for your favorite religious text.
20. Write a political campaign victory speech
21. Write a political campaign consolation speech.
22. Write a speech abdicating an office.
23. Write a script for a motivational video.
24. Write a script for a commercial.
25. Write a script for an infomercial.
26. Write a jingle for your blog.
27. Write a poem without making it rhyme.
28. Write a monologue for a late night talk show.
29. Write an award acceptance speech.
30. Write a toast for a wedding you crashed.
31. Roast a celebrity or expert in your niche.
32. Write a story on the opening of a time capsule.
33. Write a post in a language you don’t speak.
34. Write a letter to a stranger in a foreign land.
35. Open the yellow pages, point to an ad and review the company.
36. Write a commentary on something from CSPAN.
37. Write a review on an obscure piece of software you use only at work.
38. Write a script for a news cast.
39. Write a synopsis of a sporting event.
40. Heckle a fashion show or beauty contest.
41. Write an award citation.
42. Write your own performance appraisal.
43. Write your bosses performance appraisal.
44. Write a greeting card.
45. Write a service level agreement for your readers.
46. Write a statement of work for a blog.
47. Write a business plan for your site.
48. Write an acceptance speech if you were elected President. ( edited)
49. Write a script for a video game.
50. Write your own eulogy.
--nice. if i have time i start one =)
by Frank Gilroy
in personal
1. Send out a twitter asking for a random word to write a post about.
2. Google your name, find somebody that isn’t you, and write about them.
3. Find two experts in a field and start an argument between them.
4. Write a letter of resignation for a job you don’t have.
5. Write a resume cover letter for a job you have no chance of getting.
6. Re-write a great speech from history like the Gettysburg Address.
7. Write a letter to yourself in the future.
8. Write a letter to yourself in the past.
9. Write a letter to a son or daughter you don’t have.
10. Write a letter to an extra terrestrial.
11. Write a review of a book that hasn’t been written.
12. Write a review of a movie that hasn’t been made.
13. Write a review of a product that hasn’t been developed.
14. Write a travel review of a place you haven’t visited.
15. Write yourself a spam e-mail.
16. Write yourself a sales letter for a product you’d never buy.
17. Write a lawyers closing arguments.
18. Write a judges dissent.
19. Write a new book or chapter for your favorite religious text.
20. Write a political campaign victory speech
21. Write a political campaign consolation speech.
22. Write a speech abdicating an office.
23. Write a script for a motivational video.
24. Write a script for a commercial.
25. Write a script for an infomercial.
26. Write a jingle for your blog.
27. Write a poem without making it rhyme.
28. Write a monologue for a late night talk show.
29. Write an award acceptance speech.
30. Write a toast for a wedding you crashed.
31. Roast a celebrity or expert in your niche.
32. Write a story on the opening of a time capsule.
33. Write a post in a language you don’t speak.
34. Write a letter to a stranger in a foreign land.
35. Open the yellow pages, point to an ad and review the company.
36. Write a commentary on something from CSPAN.
37. Write a review on an obscure piece of software you use only at work.
38. Write a script for a news cast.
39. Write a synopsis of a sporting event.
40. Heckle a fashion show or beauty contest.
41. Write an award citation.
42. Write your own performance appraisal.
43. Write your bosses performance appraisal.
44. Write a greeting card.
45. Write a service level agreement for your readers.
46. Write a statement of work for a blog.
47. Write a business plan for your site.
48. Write an acceptance speech if you were elected President. ( edited)
49. Write a script for a video game.
50. Write your own eulogy.
--nice. if i have time i start one =)
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